You’re good teammates.
Good parents.

But behind closed doors?
Something’s missing.

The spark.
The fire.
The “I can’t wait to touch you” energy.

Most couples don’t talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it.

In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what’s really underneath the roommate marriage phase and why trying to “get more sex” is often the exact thing killing desire.

We unpack:

• Why desire discrepancy is so common (and what it actually means)
• The “sweatpants phase” and how polarity shifts over time
• How covert contracts and duty-based sex quietly destroy intimacy
• Why trying to control or convince your partner backfires
• How men can express sexual desire without entitlement or blame
• The real role nervous system regulation plays in attraction
• Why emotional safety is the foundation of sexual chemistry
• Practical, playful ways to bring novelty back into your relationship

The truth?

You don’t improve your sex life by controlling your partner.

You improve it by regulating yourself.

When emotional safety increases, desire often follows.

When nervous systems calm down, intimacy has room to breathe.

And when conversations shift from entitlement to vulnerability, connection deepens.

If  you’ve been feeling rejected, frustrated, or confused about why intimacy feels harder than it used to, this episode will give you clarity and next steps.

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Learn more about Dan Purcell:

Website: www.getyourmarriageon.com
Podcast: Get Your Marriage On
App: Intimately Us (Available on Apple & Google Play)

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