This week’s coaching episode is a behind-the-scenes look at an actual coaching call.
Our guest came in wanting help moving on from a 12-year relationship, still holding onto the belief that if he could just do things differently, it could still work. What we uncover instead is a pattern of people-pleasing and self-abandonment that goes back much further than this relationship, and what it actually takes to start choosing himself.
In this coaching episode, we unpack:
- Why people-pleasing can make someone else’s happiness feel like your responsibility
- The connection between self-worth, criticism, rejection, and relationship anxiety
- Why having needs doesn’t automatically make you “clingy” or “needy”
- The difference between guilt, shame, and actual accountability
- How childhood experiences can quietly shape what feels familiar in adult relationships
- Why he kept abandoning himself to keep the relationship stable
- What fight + fawn responses can look like during conflict
- A simple breathing technique for regulating before walking back into a stressful environment
- How to start figuring out who you are after years of defining yourself through a relationship
If you’re listening and realizing you’ve spent years trying to become the person someone else needed you to be, maybe the next chapter isn’t about getting them back.
Maybe it’s about getting you back.
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