What if being “healed” doesn’t mean you never get triggered again?
You can do therapy, nervous system work, breathwork, become incredibly self-aware… and still occasionally get defensive, shut down, raise your voice, say something you regret, or hurt your partner without intending to.
Because you’re human.
In this episode, Tara breaks down the skill she thinks every relationship actually needs, and it’s not “never get triggered again.”
You’ll hear:
- Why regulation doesn’t mean never having an emotional reaction
- How defensiveness can disguise itself as “logic”
- The difference between intention and impact
- Why “I was just trying to help” probably isn’t helping
- Questions that replace defensiveness with curiosity
- What accountability actually looks like beyond an apology
- How boundaries fit into repair when behavior doesn’t change
- Tara’s 3-question post-conflict “relationship debrief”
- Why learning to fight better can actually create more closeness
If you’re a man who wants to become more regulated, consistent, and emotionally safe in your relationship, Healthy Men-tality was built to help you practice these skills with coaching, accountability, and support.
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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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